Liking ourselves, having high self-esteem as we tend to put it, is crucial to any feeling of wellbeing. What’s unclear is just how unpredictable the allocation of esteem often turns out to be. There are people with modest jobs, unspectacular bodies, and unglamorous friends; nevertheless, they claim to exhibit a high level of self-esteem. They seem to like themselves despite the absence of any vigorous signs of approval from the world at large, and there are others, for whom no amount of achievement, prestige, and financial security ever seems to do the trick. They anxiously chastise and criticize themselves, always feeling they’ve underperformed, never quite trusting that they really deserve to exist. Having sound levels of self-esteem ultimately appears to be the gateway to happiness, but achieving this has been confusing to many. Majority of people feel confused about their identities regularly, and that confusion just brings more negativity and inadvertently making self-esteem a personality goal to have.
HERE IS HOW TO YOUR BUILD SELF-ESTEEM BLOCKS
· Identify and Challenge Your Negative Beliefs
The first step is to recognize your negative views about yourself and then question them. Notice your thoughts and take care of your own feelings. You might find yourself thinking, for example, ‘I’m not smart enough to do that, or I have no friends. When you do, look for evidence that contradicts those statements. Write down both the conflicting argument and the facts and keep your eyes on it to remind you that your negatives beliefs about yourself are not valid.
· Give Yourself a Break
You don’t have to be perfect every hour of every day. You don’t even have to feel good about yourself all the time. Self-esteem varies from situation to situation, from day to day and hour to hour. Some people feel relaxed and positive with friends and colleagues, but uneasy and shy with strangers. Others may feel totally in command of themselves at work but struggle socially (or vice versa). Give yourself a break. We all have times when we feel a bit down or find it harder to maintain our self-belief. The key is not to be too hard on yourself.
Be kind to yourself, and not too critical.
Avoid criticizing yourself to others, because this can reinforce your negative views and give other people a (possibly false) negative opinion of you. You can help to boost your self-esteem by giving yourself a treat whenever you succeed in doing something hard, or just for managing a particularly bad day.
· Take care of yourself
Self-esteem depends on a combination of good physical, emotional, and social health. It is hard to feel good about yourself if you don’t like your physique or constantly having low energy. Make time to cultivate good exercise and sleeping habit. It is much easier to feel good about ourselves when we are fit and healthy. However, people with low self-esteem often neglect themselves because they do not think that they ‘deserve’ to be looked after. In addition, dress the way you want to feel and build your self-esteem by making an effort to look after your own needs
· Visualize yourself as the best in what you do
Our self-image means so much to us. Often more than we realize, there is a mental picture of ourselves that determines our self-esteem. When we struggle with low self-esteem, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Visualization is the technic of seeing an image of yourself that you’re proud of in your mind, so start visualizing yourself as best as you can
· Affirm yourself to be the best version of you
We tend to behave by our own self-image. The trick to make a lasting change is to change how you view yourself, believing whatever we tell ourselves always and affirming positive statements that we say to ourselves. For example, if you don’t like something about your physical appearance, practice saying something that you appreciate or like about yourself when you look in the mirror.
Much Love
Kim x
